Home

Whenever the word “home” is mentioned, I can literally feel my body relax. I like to think of our home as a “soft place to land” after a long day out in this crazy world. As a Mom of teenagers, and one who depends on her own phone a bit too much – I recognize the importance of recharging our devices. “Who took my charger?!”, and “Have you seen my cord?” are common questions at our house. Realizing that our phones and iPads need to be recharged in order to work at their full capacity lends itself to a similar discussion about our human needs.

When I walk into our home, it’s not uncommon for a huge sigh to escape my lips. Not that my days are always insane, but boy is it nice to walk in and know that I am “home”. I am safe, I can relax, I can hold my hair back with a chip clip and only be teased for a short time by those that love me most. One of my favorite ways to recharge is to have yummy scents in every room. Candles, wax warmers, wall plug ins- so many options! I love the smell of vanilla, cinnamon, caramel – these scents just make me happy! And pillows – something else that make me smile. A couch that is piled high with pillows and a super soft blanket – what is that? I think I just heard angels singing! Being surrounded by the things that I love most helps me to deal with the inevitable stress that comes with each day.

What makes you feel most relaxed and comfortable? Framed pictures of loved ones, soft music playing (or loud music!), needy pets that just want you to sit down so that they can jump on your lap? Check, check, and check! I’d suggest you sit and think about it. The desire for our minds and bodies to slow down is legit. We all need a soft place to land. How can you make your home a more relaxing, enjoyable environment for those in your family? Ask everyone – you may be surprised what they suggest! In the end, in order for US to work, learn, play and thrive – at our highest levels – we need to be able to recharge and take breaks that will allow us all to start fresh again tomorrow. It could be as easy as buying a cozy blanket for our favorite chair, or lighting a lavender candle in the bedroom a few hours before bed. Recognize the importance of your own needs for comfort – and I promise, your mood will improve!

Happy Thanksgiving, friends!

It’s me again!

Time is a funny thing. When you are waiting for test results, minutes feel like hours. If you are in a hurry and caught in traffic – time stands still. Yet, when you are spending time with family that live far away, the hours whiz past. Time also flies as we watch our babes grow from school agers to college students living independently. What I’m trying to say is, it’s been a while since I’ve posted and I have no good reasons and a thousand little reasons why. I’m pretty sure you can relate to life in general being a “time suck”. I would triple love to be able to write weekly and post. I would also triple love to win the lottery and wake up tomorrow weighing 10 pounds less. It’s not happening.

I’m writing this on November 2nd. When I went to bed last night, it was August- or it least it felt that way. In the meantime, school has started and my 3rd book has been released. Both good things – but time consuming nonetheless. Teaching three year olds brings me such joy, but lesson planning and activity preparation can be tedious. Bringing a new book to life is a thrill, but marketing can be a bear. At 46, I am finally learning the importance of choosing the “best yes”. Let me explain. I volunteer a lot- too much, actually. I never hesitate when something is brought up, if I see a need, I want to jump right in. This in itself isn’t a bad thing. The problem is, I don’t stop to think about all of the commitments combined with the needs of my family, my teaching, my book events, helping with my Dad, and the various other aspects of craziness that pops up on the daily. Now – before I open my mouth, I consider the importance, the time it will take, and whether or not someone else could do it other than me. I choose the “best yes” and do it with a smile. I don’t grumble my way through my to do list because it was created with a lot of thought and care. At this point, I’m trying to spend my time more wisely. I recommend it 😊

I’m hoping to be able to write again soon. I pray you are reading this with a smile on your face. Until we meet again –

Be good – to yourself and others – Kelly Jean

“Dear blog readers…”

Dear blog readers,

I feel that I must start with an apology. My last post was March 15th. It’s June 12th. I’m embarrassed. I’m not going to claim that “I don’t know where the time went?” because I know full well what has been occupying my time – teaching, editing, and mom life in general. Too many mundane calendar filling things that I refuse to discuss (zzzzzzz). We are all busy and put the things we want to be doing in the backseat – or behind the darn car, if we’re being honest. I love to write. But my family loves to eat and wear clean clothes. It’s a legit dilemma. How can I do it all?!?!

I’m happy to share the answer. You can’t. Not all at once at least. Now that school is out and I’m on “summer” break (#wheresthesun) I’m finding a few more minutes to do the things I want to do: read, write, knit, thrift shop, paint furniture and organize. And, to confirm, I’m still doing school stuff – because I love it, and it’s fun for me. And not getting up at 5 am is even more fun. Being able to do a few extra things for myself is going to be helpful, since the upcoming year will be a busy one.

My 3rd book is now at the printers! For an author, I liken this to being in my 9th month of pregnancy. It’s a lovely combination of “I can’t wait!” mixed with “What the #%^* did I get myself into?!”. There are an abundance of emotions and a growing list of “to dos” before the big day. I am thinking at this point that I will receive my shipment of books by the end of August. Official release date will be in September or possibly October. Lots of variables will decide these dates. I will keep you informed because… I’M SO EXCITED! (What the #%^* did I get myself into?)

Farewell for now, please forgive my extended absence. I’ll try to pull it together soon!

With love – Kelly Jean ❤️

Friday, coffee & exciting news…

Good morning. I’m sitting here on my couch with my coffee and a fat cat. This is something that happens literally every day of the year. But today is a bit different. Today, I am sharing some fun news. I announced earlier this week that I have signed a contract for book #3. And you know what they say about the 3rd time? Oh boy is this one a charm! You guyssssssss! Seriously, I know when authors are promoting their books they say “I can’t wait for you to read this one!”, and, “I know you’ll love my new book!”. But, SERIOUSLY, all of that and more comes to mind when I think about the book that is currently in the editing process. Here’s a bit of background…

WHEN DID I WRITE IT? I have had several ideas floating around in my mind for book #3, and a few times I even started writing. But I usually feel a spark of some sort, a desire to continue writing, an inability to stop writing if it feels “right” – and it hadn’t… yet. This winter has been nuts. Not necessarily a ton of snow, but frigid temperatures that closed school for an entire week and ice storm after ice storm – to the tune of 12 days off of school. During one of our days at home, something on Facebook caught my attention. I thought for a moment about how cute a children’s book would be on that topic, and before I knew it, I had 6 pages written! The subject is close to my heart and the storyline presented itself quite easily.

WHAT IS IT ABOUT? I will be introducing my main character soon. I can tell you that he has many endearing qualities: adorable, smart, mischievous and a tad stubborn. I am also absolutely certain that he will win your heart.

IS THIS BOOK ANYTHING LIKE YOUR FIRST TWO BOOKS? Crazy enough, no. It’s very different. Which makes it even more special. Like a Mama, an author doesn’t have a “favorite” – or at least won’t admit to it. Each book has qualities that that draw people to it, stories that others can relate to, quotes that bring a smile. This book is especially unique when considering its illustrations. This is a work in progress and something I am extremely proud of – I will share the very second I can do so!

WHEN WILL THIS BOOK BE READY? GAH!!! This is the hard part. Once my text is complete and I sign off out of the editing phase, I move into the layout portion. During this time, we will determine how the page spreads will look, how the text and images will be displayed – the fonts, the background, etc…. it’s a bunch of creative decisions that are necessary to format the completed project. Then we head to designing the front and back covers, and printing and shipping and promotions. I am hoping that by late August/early September you can have this book in your hands!

I will be finished teaching in May. My first year back in the classroom after being home for 20 years raising our family was all that you would have expected it to be: terrifying at first, exhausting as I found a balance and continued the rest of my life’s activities, and more rewarding than I will ever be able to explain. Now that summer approaches, I will be able to switch gears and put my author hat back on. Throughout the year, I continued making author presentations at schools of Fridays, so that author hat was never really that far away! Completing this first year of teaching has helped me to organize all of my curriculum and establish routines and schedules that I can pick up again next year without as much stress and preparation (🎉). I am excited to focus on this new book adventure this summer!

Thanks for reading all of this and please stick around for all of the fun that is yet to come! ❤️📚👏🏻🙂.

Love notes

February is coming. And we all know what that means – Valentine’s Day, and everything red, lacy, and dark chocolatey. Not that I’m complaining, but I’d like to suggest another way you can “offer up” your Valentine’s Day. I have always made it a family affair, because, you know, kids like to have fun… and I’m pretty sure they like to feel loved and eat chocolate as much as the average adult. Involving your children in every holiday is not only a good time, but teaches them that life is about celebrations, creating connections, and enjoying each day to the fullest. In fact – why wait for a holiday – have a heck of a Tuesday night – I dare you!

Ever since my four were tiny, we had several February 14th traditions . That night, we would eat red food – spaghetti, or heart shaped pasta, then go on a “heart hunt”. This was simply a scavenger hunt with the hints written on heart shaped pieces of paper. The treasures found at the end were a gift bag for each filled with dollar store trinkets, or later, as they got older, whatever they were into – nail polish, a new scarf, key chain, cologne, whatever. Nothing fancy – but fun, and something they looked forward to each year. When they were all old enough to write notes to each other – or at least draw a picture – we started the tradition of putting out little mailboxes on February first. These mailboxes were decorated by each child and sat ready to collect notes and drawings from the family. They were found at Target years ago – very inexpensive. If you can’t find mailboxes, you can decorate paper bags or empty tissue boxes for the same purpose. It was always so fun to watch them check for mail – sometimes several times a day 💌. I have a bag of notes that I have saved over the years. It’s so much fun to read them now and laugh about the messages or handwriting. Reading these notes helps to confirm that they really ARE building a solid relationship- that they do actually love each other, despite a bit of yelling and door slamming that happens in every house.

The notes were all quite different. Some thanked family members for helping them with something. Others were poetry (my personal favorites!). But all of them took time to write. The family member had to be deliberate about showing affection – and that was the goal. If you love someone- tell them. Or show them. But don’t keep it to yourself. Making others feel loved and appreciated is something that we are all capable of – even the littles ❤️

Just wanted to encourage you to use February to show your love. Send a note to a friend. Call your Mom. Text your neighbor. Tell them why they matter to you. They will love it, and never forget you or the time it took to share the sentiment. It’s not difficult – and it can completely turn someone’s day around. And, before I sign off, I just wanted to say that I am so grateful for YOU. I love to write, but it makes me even happier knowing that others are reading my words, and (hopefully) enjoying them. You make a difference in my world. Enjoy your February- and I hope you get some chocolate, too!

  Preschool essentials…

As a mom of young children, I often attempted to teach my Littles the difference between the words want and need. Having four young ones, I needed them to know that they wouldn’t be getting EVERYTHING they wanted – plus, let’s be honest, spoiled kids turn into entitled adults – and that’s never pretty. We would discuss whether they wanted the new doll or needed it. Did they need the new shoes (that EVERYONE else already had) or did they really want them. It’s something that we all understand – not one of us out there has gotten every single thing we have ever asked for. Shout out to the box of 64 Crayola crayons with the built in sharpener that I wanted so badly, only to take home the Roseart crayons from Kmart. Being able to discern whether or not some thing, some one, or some situation was essential is crucial . And yes, I said someone. It’s easy to think you need to be friends with a certain group, when actually,  it’s just the desire to be accepted that you are feeling. I’m glad that we discussed this concept when my children were young. I know this knowledge will help them maneuver through their teens and early adult years.

Fast forward a dozen years, and I have found the word essential creep back into my world. I am a preschool teacher 2 days a week. On Tuesdays and Thursdays, I help teach the cutest 3 year olds how to navigate their world – and it makes me smile SO BIG. I love my job. I earned a bachelors degree in Early Childhood Education so that this could be my profession. After using all of my knowledge in the area of child development while raising my own four children for twenty years, this fall, I re- entered the preschool realm. I have told my assistant and family members on several occasions that I felt like I needed to wear an apron in the classroom so that I could have everything I used most frequently “on my person”. WELL – one of my daughters took my hints and ran with them – surprising me at Christmas. She bought this apron for me and even had it personalized in green with an adorable font – JOY to the world, indeed! I’m sure you can probably imagine my gasp when I unwrapped this baby!Now, I have to admit, that there are still, times that I feel like a waitress in a small town diner ,,,”Age appropriate curriculum- ORDER UP!”. But it gets the job done, and I’m forever grateful. I don’t carry the same things around every day, because – LIFE. Each morning I look over my lesson plans and toss my daily essentials in the pockets. I took a picture recently of the goodies in my pockets. I will list them below, along with the reason why I feel the need to toss it in a pocket. Yes. I went all out. You’re welcome. 😉

1.Carmax for my lips – I’m addicted – that’s all I can say.

2. Hand sanitizer- 3 year olds sneeze AT YOU – not near you. On occasion, I truly wish I could shower in between my morning and afternoon classes. But, I can’t, so this little guy is my second choice.

3. Glue stick – giving these littles Elmer’s glue is the stuff nightmares are made of – so instead we use glue sticks. They glue like it’s their job – because it is, so having an extra one handy is a grand idea.

4. Tissues – see #2

5. My lanyard – this is my school ID and room key. I have locked myself out of my room enough to know that wearing this is important . Yet, when it’s around my neck, and I lean in to help the children, I hit them square in the face. So this is a lovely compromise.

6. My wireless doorbell – you guys! This is absolute magic! When it’s time for a transition or I need the groups attention, I ring the doorbell by clicking the button.  They all freeze and look for me – THE POWER! I would highly recommend it to other teachers (under $20 on Amazon). Although, there have been times when I lean into it and it accidentally goes off (FALSE ALARM,children, as you were!) And my assistant told me about a time when I was using the ladies room and it accidentally went off – the kids all stood there in silence waiting for directions – she just laughed. Working out the kinks – but it’s all good!

7. A black flair pen – there are so many times during the day that I need to sign something or write someone’s name for them, etc… plus, I just love pens. ❤️✍🏻🎉

So there you have it! A tiny glimpse in a day of my life – and the essentials that help create the magic. I certainly hope that you found this even a tad bit interesting. Please share with me what you believe YOUR daily essentials are!

Have a great week end – Apron-wearing KJ

Plan B…

So, I had a whole bunch of plans for today. Instead, I woke up with the crud that has been floating around my classroom – sneezing, congestion, fatigue, a bit of misery. I looked at my to do list, which included breakfast with a good friend, and determined that I could postpone all of it. As much as I wanted to share coffee and catch up, I know she didn’t want to stare at my pale face, red nosed, messy haired self and risk getting these germs, too. Little did I know that yesterday, when I came home from school with laminated items to cut and lessons to plan, I was also bring this nonsense into my home. Those little turds – it’s a good thing they are so cute, because germs are the only thing that they will share willingly. 

This is my current view. It’s not a bad view, just quite different than the one that I had imagined. I love to be productive. To check things off of my list. And then – SURPRISE – life jumps in and reminds me of how very little control I actually have. It’s OK,  I think this day was probably necessary. Time to read and nap and read again. Time to watch tv and nap. And then just nap. Guess I need the sleep. My word of the year is RISE, which, admittedly, is difficult to do while congested and tired and perhaps a bit grumpy and negative. But that’s OK, too.  I’m fairly certain that we are all allowed – and should be encouraged – to have days that we pause our ambition, our desires, our huge plans. I’m not saying quit, I’m saying rest. Rest and THEN rise. Maybe it’s my cold meds. talking, but I’m feeling better already. Not get off the couch better, but mentally more able to “accept” that today is necessary and will benefit me more than originally thought. 

I will continue to lay low until I have my regular energy back. I am just starting, at 45, to listen to my body. Whatever you are doing on this Friday – I hope you are well (or getting there!).  Much love to you ❤️ – congested Kelly Jean