Once again, I have found a quote that really made me think. This time, I was reading and came across the wise words – “Don’t strive to make your presence noticed, but your absence felt”. After thinking about this statement, I must say that I really like the concept. I’m not sure if most people feel the same way, but living life in this way will truly impact those around you.

I’m fairly certain that we have all felt (at one time or another) as if we were unnoticed or under appreciated, whether it was at our place of employment, within our friend group, or even at home. I will admit to times as a Stay At Home Mom that I felt the things I was doing each day could have possibly been accomplished by just about anyone and that I wouldn’t be missed if I left for a few hours. This was not at all my typical headspace, but when things got especially monotonous, I had to force myself to regroup and think about my reasons for being home in the first place. What did I bring to the table that someone else could not? How did my presence benefit my children in a way that would be missed if I truly wasn’t there?

I didn’t realize it then, but I was actually trying to live this quote out. I was trying to be the best I could possibly be -the most encouraging, affectionate, compassionate, involved and invested… I wanted there to be a void when I was gone. I wanted to be missed. I didn’t need the praise, accolades and recognition while I was there (although I would have been grateful for it). I just wanted to know that when I wasn’t there, it wasn’t the same. Once again, I don’t think I’m alone in this. The tricky part in creating an energy that will be missed when you are gone is not going overboard while you are there. Does that make sense? I didn’t need to be the “main character” but I did feel the need to make things special and keep things organized and allow the house to run smoothly while the 6 of us led our lives together. It’s very much like how a substitute teacher feels when they are trying to run a classroom that is not theirs while “That’s not how Miss Suzy does it ! ” is shouted out repeatedly throughout the day. Miss Suzy has created a flow, she had a vibe that can not be replaced. Don’t we all want to be Miss Suzy and have people miss us when we aren’t there?!

I love that we have the chance to “leave our mark” each and every day with everyone we encounter. I love the idea of leaving people and things better than when we found them. Smile and encourage others when you can – you will be remembered for it – I promise. And it’s always nice to be thought of when we aren’t around 🙂